Hi @Msaga.1 ,
for the cut-off frequencies of the HP and LP filters, you need to change bits BW_FILT[1:0] of register CTRL6 (25h).
you can refer to Table 41 (Digital filtering cutoff selection) on page 42 of the datasheet.
the values are dependent from the ODR value, so you have to keep that into consideration when selecting your cut-off frequency.
regarding the two reference modes, I was not aware of those definitions, but I now understand what they mean.
the absolute reference mode is designed to have the "sleep position" set manually by the user, changing the values of X_OFS_USR, Y_OFS_USR and Z_OFS_USR registers.
with relative reference mode you need to place the sensor in your "sleep position" and then set the HP_REF_MODE bit of register CTRL7. now that is the "sleep position" and if you move it from that position you trigger the wake up interrupt (if set up properly).
I hope this is clearer now, but feel free to ask more precise questions =)
Niccolò